واکاوی تجربۀ شکست عشقی مکرر در جوانان ایرانی (یک مطالعۀ داده‌بنیاد)

نوع مقاله : مقاله پژوهشی

نویسندگان

1 دکتری مشاوره، دانشکدۀ روان‌شناسی و علوم تربیتی، دانشگاه خوارزمی، تهران، ایران.

2 دانشیار، گروه مشاوره، دانشکدۀ روان‌شناسی و علوم تربیتی، دانشگاه خوارزمی، تهران، ایران.

3 استاد، گروه مشاوره، دانشکدۀ روان‌شناسی و علوم تربیتی، دانشگاه خوارزمی، تهران، ایران.

چکیده

هدف پژوهش حاضر، بررسی عوامل مختلف مؤثر بر شکست عشقی مکرر در قالب پژوهشی کیفی و با استفاده از گراندد تئوری بود. جامعۀ آماری تحقیق، کلیۀ دختران و پسران مجرد شهر تهران در سال 1400 بودند که حداقل دو بار تجربۀ شکست عشقی داشتند. از بین آن‌ها 16 نفر (6 پسر و 10 دختر) به شیوۀ هدفمند و گلوله‌برفی انتخاب شدند و براساس اصل اشباع، مصاحبۀ نیمه‌ساختاریافته انجام شد. برای تحلیل مصاحبه‌های انجام‌شده از روش تحلیل سیستماتیک استراوس و کوربن و سه روش کدگذاری باز، محوری و انتخابی بهره گرفته شد. مطابق نتایج، مفهوم هسته‌ای مدل مقوله‌ها (انتخاب هیجانی-تکانشی، سستی ارتباطی و شکست عشقی) درنظر گرفته شد. شرایط علی شکست عشقی مکرر در هشت مقوله قرار گرفتند: انتخاب و ارتباط مبتنی بر اهداف کنشی و ناسالم، وابستگی بیمارگونۀ توأم با اضطراب، خودتخریب‌گری و نداشتن شفقت به خود، نداشتن آمادگی‌های ضروری برای هدایت رابطه به‌سمت تعامل پایدار، الگوهای تعاملی مخرب و ناپایدار، تفاوت‌های تعارض‌برانگیز، ترس‌های غیرواقع‌بینانه و ویژگی‌های شخصیتی تسهیل‌گر. عوامل زمینه‌ساز نیز دو مقولۀ مختل‌بودن کارکرد خانواده و بهره‌مند‌نبودن از راهنمایی شبکۀ اجتماعی متخصص و کارآمد بود. عوامل مداخله‌گر در دو مقولۀ نداشتن تسهیل‌گرهای انتخاب درست و کنش سازنده، و ضعف‌های مهارتی مداخله‌گر قرار گرفتند. کنش‌ها در چهار مقوله طبقه‌بندی شدند: کنش‌های هیجانی-شناختی گذرا و مخرب، کنش‌های هیجانی-شناختی پایدار و مخرب، کنش‌های جسمانی مخرب و کنش‌های رفتاری مخرب. همچنین سه مقولۀ پیامدهای شکست عشقی مکرر عبارت‌اند از: تسهیل‌گرهای انتخاب درست و رابطۀ عاشقانۀ متعهدانه، اجتناب مطلق از تعاملات عاشقانه، و تسهیل‌گرهای انتخاب اشتباه و شکست مجدد رابطۀ عاشقانه.

کلیدواژه‌ها

عنوان مقاله [English]

A Grounded Theory Analysis of the Experience of Repeated Love Failure among Iranian Youth

نویسندگان [English]

  • Laya Dindoost 1
  • Ismael Asadpour 2
  • Kianoush Zahrakar 3
  • Farshad Mohsenzadeh 2
1 Department of Counseling, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Science, University of Kharazmi, Tehran, Iran.
2 Department of Counseling, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Science, Kharazmi University, Tehran, Iran.
3 Department of Counseling, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Science, University of Kharazmi. Tehran, Iran.
چکیده [English]

Using qualitative research grounded in theory, the purpose of this study was to investigate the various factors that influence repeated love failure. Based on the saturation principle, semi-structured interviews were conducted with 16 unattached boys and girls in Tehran in 2021 (6 boys and 10 girls) who had experienced at least two love failures. This study’s participants were selected using a targeted, snowball and available methodology. Strauss and Corben’s (1987) systematic analysis and three coding techniques—open, axial, and selective—were utilized to analyze the interviews. According to the results, the core concept of the model was determined to be emotional-impulsive choice, communication weakness, and love failure categories. Analyzed were the eight categories of recurrent love failure: selection and communication based on active and unhealthy goals, pathological dependence combined with anxiety, self-destruction and lack of self-compassion, lack of necessary preparations to lead the relationship to stable interaction, destructive and unstable interaction patterns, conflicting differences, unrealistic fears, and facilitator personality traits. There were two categories of risk factors (family dysfunction and absence of a specialized and effective social network guide). Interfering factors of recurrent love failure fell into two categories: lack of facilitators of right choice and constructive action, interfering skill deficiencies. The actions (strategies) were categorized into four groups: transitory and destructive emotional-cognitive actions, stable and destructive emotional-cognitive actions, destructive physical actions, and destructive behavioral actions. The consequences were divided into three categories: facilitators of correct choice and committed romantic relationship, absolute avoidance of romantic interactions, facilitators of incorrect choice, and re-failure of romantic relationship.

کلیدواژه‌ها [English]

  • Grounded Theory
  • Recurrent Love Failure
  • Single Girls and Boys

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