Factors Influencing Extramarital Relationship among Married Females: A Qualitative Study

Document Type : Research Paper


1 PhD student, Faculty Member of Psychology Department, Ferdowsi University of Mashhad, Iran

2 Faculty Member of Psychology Department, Ferdowsi University of Mashhad, Iran


Marital commitment has always been recognized as one of the fundamental principles of marriage, and extramarital relations have led to irritable consequences, although the reasons are not well known. Therefore, this study was aimed to investigate the factors is related to the extra marital relationships of Iranian females through a qualitative analysis. The statistical population consisted 17 women who referred to health centers in Mashhad city. Sampling conducted via purposive method. The main method of collecting data in the present study was a deep semi-structured qualitative interview, documents and interview with experienced professional psychologist. Data were analyzed using qualities method. After extracting data’s, the content was adjusted in to four categories of individual, family, social and religious-beliefs. Each of these categories has been considered as a factor for extra marital relationship of participants. The results of the survey showed that the factors associated with extra marital relationship is explainable in the four categories framework. According the findings, suggestions are presented in the article.


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